For those of you who have popped in on this blog and supported its start at the beginning of the year, sincere apologies for the long delay between posts. 2012 has been a heck of a month–I have the feelings that the Mayans may have just gotten the whole end-of-the-world thing right, at the rate the year has gone so far.
In addition to the normal kids/work/PTA/home/life schedule of things, January brought the death of one of our beloved dogs, whom we had to put to sleep. I also had to plan and host birthday parties for both of my kids (at home, which necessitated thorough housecleaning not once but twice). Someone got ahold of my credit card number and made a fradulent charge and I had to close my account. And then my dear 90-year-old grandmother, who had taken ill during the holidays with pneumonia, rapidly declined, suffering through two different hospital stays before coming home to die last week.
And it’s only February. Good God, do we really have to wait for December for the world to end, Mayans?
The other day, I was talking with a friend of mine at a birthday party for our daughters’ friend. She was marveling over what had happened in my life over the past month and asked me, “How are you keeping it all together?” The short answer is, I’m not.
When my weekly 160-mile round trips to visit my grandmother turned into daily treks during her last week of life, I knew I had to pretty much throw my schedule out the window. I told my editors what was going on and got deadline extensions for certain projects. Grocery shopping got done so the family would be fed, but the laundry piled up (and up, and up). My workouts dwindled away, while my stack of magazines and books on my nightstand grew to an alarming height.
Now that life is returning to normal, I know I have a lot of catching up to do. And while I normally would be FREAKING OUT that I was falling behind, I can’t find it in me to stress. Of course, part of that is due to the emotional overload I’ve been through–I’m simply too tired to worry–but I feel like my life lesson for the year is letting go of my plans, my schedule, and branching out. I would prefer to do this without any more deaths in the family, thank you very much, but the point is, I don’t feel bad about not keeping it all together. The house is still standing even though I forgot to start the dishwasher last night, and my work will still get done, albeit a little later than normal.
I couldn’t not keep it all together without some help, though. My husband stepped into the breach, giving up his beloved hot yoga class and taking time off work to help me out. Friends offered prayers and assistance, with offers to take care of the kids so I could get more time with my grandmother. It’s a reminder to keep an eye on the big picture and invest in the things–like relationships–that really matter. And while this blog was, unfortunately, one of the things that fell by the wayside, I’m ready to jump back into it–and if there’s ever another large gap, just know that I’m busy not keeping it all together–and that I’m totally fine with that.